|Posted on 6 January, 2020 at 2:55|
Our brains are naturally wired to delay our happiness.
Waiting for things to be all sorted. Solved. Aligned. Put into place.
When I get that job, that relationship, that holiday, that baby, that house... whatever it is that we think will bring us salvation. Joy. Peace. Freedom. Love.
But the truth is, as we all know rationally, when has life ever stopped when that milestone arrived? And how long did the joy, happiness and satisfaction that we had been waiting for, last?
Maybe a minute, a day if we're lucky, and then on to the next thing, the next accomplishment, goal, circumstance... Always waiting.
So what if we took an alternative approach.
What if instead of seeking to find all that we desired in these external facets of our lives, what if we chose to redirect our attendtion within.
To shifting our state of perception.
To viewing all that we currently were surrounded by, with fresh new eyes.
It is so normal to want different things, to seek growth, expansion, achievement, but when we place our sense of happiness, safety or security in the hands of anything outside of our self, we can cause ourselves unnecessary suffering.
Look around you.
See the blessings of your life.
Find the joy in the smallest of things. They are endless and plentiful. No matter what is happening in our outside worlds.
When we shift the lens, we find all that we were searching for. Right here. Right now. In the richness and totality of life as we know it.
|Posted on 5 December, 2019 at 5:35|
We only have a finite source of precious energy.
And it is up to us where we choose to invest it.
Do we out pour it into thoughts of the past- memories, regrets, past jobs or relationships?
Do we let it go into worries, blame, complaining, negativity, fear or doubt?
Feeding stories connected to our wounded selves, out dated versions of aspects that no longer feature in our current life?
Or do we choose a new adventure?
Re-write our story, invest in a dream, empowered belief, loving thought/ word/ deed?
It is up to us to choose wisely.
What do we want to see grow and expand in our life?
Joy, peace, love, connection, vitality?
The choice is ours...
|Posted on 23 October, 2019 at 4:10|
|Posted on 31 January, 2019 at 22:05|
Life as an Empath is certainly a magical experience...
We are blessed to experience highs that can take us to states of bliss, with profound joy and elation, yet can just as easily shift into states of intense negative emotions like fear, sadness or despair, when we take on too much of our surroundings, other's energy, places, society and more broadly the world at large...
So how can we bring some balance, equanimity and peace to our ever colourful, ever changing landscape of emotional experience?
The most important thing we can do is protect our energy field from taking on other people's negative emotions. We are like a magnet for people to offload and share as when they are with us they are not only being truly heard, but validated, understood and healed. Yet we need to protect our sensitive constitutions from taking on too much. From becoming overburdened and exposed to the negativities of life and choice to place our awareness on the joys and beauty, encouraging those around us to do the same. This helps to lift not only our own energy vibration, but that of those around us.
We need so much time to connect with ourselves, rather than getting lost in the myriad of energies around us. Nature, the ocean, walks, gardening, lying on the ground and planting our feet in the soil, are all ways to centre ourselves when we are feeling unbalanced. Preventatively, the more we can do these things, the less likely we are to reach a state of overwhelm in the first place.
Through meditation, visualisations, epson salt baths, crystal healing and immersing ourselves in water, we can rid ourselves of our own and others toxic energy vibrations that attach to all of our energetic bodies. This is necessary as a regular practice to avoid the build up of stagnant energy in our system, that if left uncleansed will eventually manifest as physical ailments and even illness.
4. Expressing what we need
As much as we have the gift of understanding on a deeper level how others feel, it can be very difficult for others to grasp how life must be like as an empath. We are not just connected to our surroundings through our 5 senses, which are also heightened, but perceiving everything through our intuitive awareness, picking up of the minutest of subtleties in every moment. We therefore need to be able to express, without self-judgement, what it is we need. We are ultimately all so different and even within our self from day to day, moment to moment, our needs are constantly changing. The best we can do is to go with the flux of life, let go of our resistance to what is, to whatever presents itself across the screen of our consciousness and to ride the tides of our life journey in this incarnation.
Through these simple, yet profound practices, we can live a life in which we are not simply SURVIVING, but THRIVING and living the life that we know in our hearts we were always meant to live!
Namaste Dr Talia
|Posted on 14 June, 2018 at 8:20|
So many of us have been told throughout our lives that we are weak because of our sensitive nature. Have been told not to cry, to “toughen up” and have been seen by the external world as fragile, incapable or soft.
But the truth of it is that the strongest of souls, the toughest people I have ever met, are those earth angels that have felt it all.
When you are blessed with a sensitive heart, you are blessed with the ability to truly feel what another can feel. To connect with others on a heart level, much deeper than the superficiality our collective conditioning tells us is acceptable to engage at. However the more painful side of this is the sensitivity to everything, not just your own experiences and emotions, but the energy of your environment, to sensory inputs and to others emotions. You feel what is said and not said. Sometimes even when the person isn't aware of it yet them self. Everything hits your sensitive heart. And you know, that that is difficult for some people to grasp, which at some point you come to realise is actually ok.
The truth is, when you feel it all, the highest of highs and the depths of lows, your own and others, you are far from weak. You are a warrior. You are strong and courageous. To feel what you feel and be who you truly are, in a world where sensitivity is not commonly valued or nurtured and is seen in a negative light.
You are capable of everything your heart desires.
Time and time again you need to let go of external belief structures around you and tune into your beautiful, sensitive heart.
It is here where your truth lies, and it is here where you will find the guidance you are seeking to support you through this path of life.
It is here that you can connect with what it is you were sent here to do, in this incarnation, in this lifetime. And this is where the work lies. To go within. To face what can be painful to face. To know that you will survive. You can endure. And you were sent to bring your truth into a world conditioned to make you believe you are not enough. You are more than enough! The entire universe lies within each and everyone of our very own hearts.
Don’t let the limitations of our modern world, confine who you were meant to be. We each have the greatness of the universe within us and our potential is infinite…
|Posted on 14 June, 2018 at 8:15|
Men are not free when they are doing just what they like. The moment you can do just what you like, there is nothing you care about doing. Men are only free when they are doing what the deepest self-likes. And there is getting down to the deepest self! It takes some diving.” DH Lawrence
From the moment our eyes blink open in the morning, we are faced with a choice; reach for the phone or take a moment to pause, set an intention for our day, savor the sanctuary of our bed or even simply take a conscious breath...
It sounds like a simple choice, but that whole moment can set the entire tone of our day.
Will we proceed to have a day fuelled by chores, to do lists, anxious planning for some future event, presentation or deadline… or a day filled with more space, reflection, moments of stillness and peace? Days can so easily turn into months, years and even lifetimes!
Our conditioning and everything about our modern world propels us to choose the first option, but the reality is, despite how fast our world is racing, we do have the CHOICE of whether or not we want to go along for that ride.
I love this quote that my brother shared with me some years ago when I would struggle with feelings of boredom.
I then started to pay attention to how I felt when I followed the path of distraction, be it Facebook, TV, online dating…I would be left feeling drained, numb, dissatisfied and most definitely unfulfilled.
I also started to notice how when I consciously dragged myself away from these things and instead listened to music, did some yoga, spiritual reading or listened to something online, my whole energy state would be revitalized and enlivened.
And that is part of the true path to discovering more deeply who we are and what it is that lights up our inner spark.
We are all so different and the key is to let go of pressures to engage in topics, activities, and pursuits that others find meaningful and instead seek to dive into our deepest self to find what it is that truly makes us come alive.
The expression “killing time” is one that so accurately describes the former state of distractions, where really, time is killing us!
Instead, we can choose to cherish each and every precious minute we have on this beautiful planet, to discover more and more about the unique, amazing being that lies within.
When we take this path, the whole world benefits, as we gain access to a whole world of inspiration and creativity that lies deep within each and every one of us! That is if we choose to dive into the depths…
|Posted on 14 June, 2018 at 8:15|
Something I’ve been contemplating in my own life recently is the influence of energy in our lives. Whether male or female we all have feminine and masculine energy within, and in different domains of our lives these forces are either activated or can lie dormant or even suppressed. For instance in a male dominated work place, where we may need to be assertive, instructive and make things happen, we need to activate our male energy otherwise known as Shiva, to get things done on a very practical and earthly level.
However when being creative, innovative, exploring our inner self and desires, we need to connect to our feminine energy or Shakti, that allows our softer, loving and empathic qualities to be ignited. For me, connecting within allows me to cultivate a source of energy that otherwise can be dampened or shut down. When we connect to that inner source, which stems from developing an awareness of our true inner self, we can then act in ways that increase our ability to identify and follow our true life’s path.
At any time the power lies within to cultivate our inner Shakti nature. That is, if we choose to access it. We can let go of the search for external circumstances, people or situations to give us that energy, that many of us feel we don't have enough of. Instead, by looking within, we can connect with that infinite supply of Divine universal energy, which is accessible to us all by shifting the focus of our attention.
Everything we need to make us feel content, happy, joyful and loved we contain within our very own heart. This may sound paradoxical to our conditioned mind, that leads us to search outwards for externals to bring us these states of being. For instance the search for the right partner, job, house, city to live in, the list is infinite…. Our society and culture constantly bombard us with messages that support this idea. The messages all around us suggest that to be happy and fulfilled we need to follow some pre-ordained path of meeting the right partner, settling down, getting married, having children, buying a house, finding the right job etc etc….
Whilst this may be the true path for some of us, parts of it or even none at all may be right for others and it is so important that we cultivate an awareness of these societal expectations, so that we can make conscious choices as to what feels right for us.
And this is where the work lies. If we truly want to live a life filled with joy, vitality, contentment and peace, we need to look within and discover what it is that our heart truly desires.
When we connect with and channel our own inner Shakti, we feel more alive, more passionate, more invigorated and excited about life. We can understand the desires that lie within our very own heart and can cultivate acceptance for whatever it is that we may find. Then it is up to us to take responsibility for our own state of being, and do the things that perpetuate these feelings within us. At the end of the day, the choice is ours to make. For a life that makes us feel that spark and joy of being alive, we need to each and every day make the decision to seek this from within. By accessing our Shakti nature, we can connect with our inner light, letting it shine out brightly becoming a source of vitality and joy in the world.
|Posted on 14 June, 2018 at 8:15|
Something I have been reflecting on recently is the idea of making a difference and leading a fulfilled life. So many of us go about our llives really wanting to make a contribution to the outside world and to affect the wellbeing of others in a positive way.
However most of us, at least at times in our lives, can be harsh, critical and judgemental of ourselves in ways we would never dream of being towards others.
I have been reflecting on the idea that maybe it goes the other way around...
Instead of always seeking to think, do and act in the interests of others, which of course is also a lovely way to be, maybe it starts with directing some of this loving energy towards ourselves.
Maybe the more self-compassion we cultivate, and the more loving and accepting we are of ourselves, we can create the space in our lives to get in touch with our true self and our being's unique purpose. And maybe it is through this way of living that we can inspire others to similarly do so.
There is great power in this way of thinking. Through awareness we discover that we have the choice every day to take responsibility for cultivating our own positive thoughts, actions and intentions. And this gives us the opportunity to be making a difference and positive contribution in the world, every day of our lives....
|Posted on 14 June, 2018 at 8:10|
“ When life becomes difficult for a moment, if it doesn't go the way we planned, we just take a little pill.
1.) We have a universal right to happiness and mental health, which, if all else fails, we can claim from our family doctor by way of a prescription.
2.) We can grow without going through life’s unavoidable phases of fear, doubt and pain.
3.) The darkness is something we should fear and battle against or something we need to be ‘cured’ of.”
In her wise little book, The Secret Within, No-nonsense Spirituality for the curious soul, AnneMarrie Postma makes some very significant points about life, pain and our society’s way of managing it.
In our culture today, the ability to connect with our emotional life, make sense of it and manage it, is clouded by our generalised desire to avoid discomfort, chase positive experiences and feelings and avoid anything “negative”, painful or challenging.
This can become very exhausting, as we strive to move quickly from one activity to the next, minimising the time or space for reflection, to avoid stumbling upon something in ourselves or our lives that reveals any level of dissatisfaction or discontent.
However, what we often neglect to realise, is that true growth, change, inspiration and creativity, is often only a result of processing these experiences that are contradictory to what our true essence desires. Only through identifying what we don't like and what doesn't fit for our unique soul’s calling in this lifetime, can we really begin to delve into what it is we were brought to deliver to the world.
This presents a very different view of the pain and hardships that inevitably present on our pathway through life. If we can cultivate the belief in the gift of these challenges as wake up messages from the Universe, we can instead be alerted to the realisation that we have lost sight of where we are going and the direction in which we need to proceed. Then it is up to us to make the choice to listen and move forward in a new direction, or in the same direction in a different way, with a different mindset.
The avoidance of pain, discomfort and challenge in life, only serves to keep us from discovering that which is truly meaningful to our true self.
If we start to allow discomfort in, make space for negative feelings and emotional states and use these as signposts, we can be guided by the Universe in a very clear way as to what actions we must next take.
As AnneMarie says, “We have nothing to gain from suppressing the unavoidable pain that life brings. Pain is a wake-up call from our soul! Pain is the road map; it can guide us to the parts of ourselves that are asking for attention, acceptance, love and healing. So pain should not be defended against, but allowed in and understood in all its glory.”
|Posted on 14 June, 2018 at 8:05|
Life is a complex series of events, challenges, beautiful moments and then pain.
It can at times make you feel like giving up, giving in to the adversities and challenges that are uniquely placed along your life’s journey.
But then something unexpected happens.
You meet an interesting person- someone who shows you a new way of being or a different lens through which to view the world.
Or you start a new job venture, accomplish a challenge, surmount a previously insurmountable task for yourself.
And you cannot imagine having had thoughts of wishing it would all just end.
That’s the beauty of life. Life is flux. Life is unpredictable, chaotic and simple.
We are here to fulfil our unique purpose, whether we know what that is or not. We are here to grow from the lessons we encounter, to experience joy and happiness and moments of pure bliss and then to know these moments through their polarities of pain and sadness, regret and loss.
But it is all part of it- the pleasure and the pain. The diamond moments and the daggers to our hearts. The best way to handle it is to ride with it, don’t fight what comes your way, rather fight for your survival, have hope, don’t ever give in when you just desperately want to give up.
Remember THIS TOO SHALL PASS in moments of sadness and moments of joy.
And always, always show compassion to yourself and those around you. Even though we all go through harder times, and some more than others, if we can find love, forgiveness and acceptance within our hearts towards ourselves and those we have encountered along the journey, life will find a way to bring back joy into our lives…